I don't think anyone really thought my parents would split up-I for one didn't see it. 30 years, first marriage, in early 20s when they were married, waited a couple of years to have children, one cross country move, home ownership, involved w/ their children, kids turn out okay. Then again, it didn't suprise me-or at least shatter my world. I definitely think the circumstances under which I left color my reaction to everything.
This is a teachable moment. I know I need to get our finances in order. I know I need to be able to support myself and our children. I love my role as wife and mom, but seeing how 30+ years can end, no marriage is perfect. I don't ever want to be blindsided the way each of my parents have by the other's actions. This is only the beginning (middle?) of the end, and its going to get worse before it gets better.