I don't always have stuff figured out. I have been going back and forth on what I want to do for E and G's birthdays, both of which are of equal importance to me. I suggested to R that we host an open playdate at the house, for our friends, and whoever comes, comes. The guest list remains in the air-how many people to invite-just the ones I know from playgroup? The ones from outside groups? How about preschool?
Sigh....I'm to the point where I don't want to have some big hoopla, but at the same time, I want to acknowledge my children. I have decided one thing, the date and time (Nov 22nd, either 10am or 2pm) just the location needs to get ironed out-that will happen this afternoon (need to see if the new park in town has opened yet). At the very least, I'll invite a whole lot of people, and maybe a few will show up. I seriously doubt everyone will come-even in the past years when I've invited M's whole preschool, I've had maybe 4-5 kids show up out of 16, and G's class has only 12. E only knows a few kids outside of the same circle (from the infant playgroup). I'll extend the invite to those families too, and if no one comes, no biggie-I'm planning on bringing a special treat the week of his birthday, just for him and his buddies.
When it comes to the prep stuff, I'll keep it simple. Design the invites myself, use the plastic utensils, and paper goods we already have on hand. Order a cake, make some refreshments, and we'll be good to go. I'm going to request that no gifts be given-instead of that, if people wish to do, bring a book that I can donate to G's preschool in his name, or some other place-I'm thinking a cause that will be collecting books for children for the holidays. Otherwise, I'm nixing gifts-my kids have enough-and really, the cause for having this party is really an excuse to celebrate our boys, and let them play with their friends. Hopefully, people won't think I'm tacky for mentioning the no-gift thing, but really, I'm the mom, so in this case, what I say, goes ;)
On the other side, I fell like, ya know, this is the last time I'll have a one year old's birthday to celebrate (or at least that what I keep telling myself). So, on that note, let me throw caution to the wind, things will have a way of working themselves out, they always do. In the end, if its just R, me, and our boys, so be it-we'll celebrate the miracles that are our two youngest boys!